Would you ever consent to …
Would you ever consent to a having an open relationship with our partner? Why or Why not?
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No, I think with an open relationship there are too many vaiables involved. Maybe not so much for the one in the relationship stepping out if they are able to emotionally disconnect but what about the young lady they are involved with. So, what happens when she catches feelings. What happens when the “other’ woman starts kirkin out and causin havic?
i would be ok if we talked. but u have to have a stong sense of who you are and in your relationship.
I think like Jay said we both have to be on the same page because if not then it will cause problems, Also i also agree with sunshine cause sometime when another person is involved they can catch feelings and that’s when all the problems start. You have some people out there that say the can handle it but for real we are all humans feelings get in the way and then it goes from there. I prefer to be with just one person but if we decide to date one another and see others then that’s when u have to set aside feelings and just do you.
It would depend on the person I was dating. Open relationships require that all of the individuals involved be able 2 juggle their feelings or emotionally detach themselves. It is my experience that women are incapable of emotional detachment when intimacy and sex are involved. An open relationship will only work if the individuals are of the mindset that sex and intimacy are not equivalent 2 love. If people are truly honest, u will find that only a limited number of people can handle an open relationship. Being intimate or engaging in sex with a person other than your committed partner is probably best kept hidden in most cases. Like Meshell N’dgeocello says: “No one is faithful. I am weak. I’ll go astray.” Going astray can mean physically, emotionally, mentally or any combination of these. Egos and emotions make an open relationship a difficult path 2 maneuver 4 most.
I dont’ agree that no on is faithful. If you get the right person u can commit. I feel if things isn’t working out that should be discussed and dont’ get it go astray. When a person stay in relationships and its not right you shouldn’t start cheating cause things are not right in the relationship. me personal i don’t and never done that i give it my all and if its not working then we need to talk about, after that and its still the same it might be hard especially when feelings are involved but u need to just move on.
I DON’T AGREE WITH AN OPEN RELATIONSHIP. I FEEL IF YOU ARE GOING TO BE WITH SOMEONE THEN THAT’S HOW IT SHOULD BE. IT’S TO MANY DISEASES IN THIS WORLD TO HAVE AN OPEN RELATIONSHIP. BEING IN AN OPEN RELATIONSIP,A PERSON FEELINGS CAN GET HURT IN THE PROCESS,IF THEY BEGIN TO GET STRONG FEELINGS FOR THE OTHER PERSON.
Open relationships can only work if open communication goes with it. And that means both ways. If you are going to do it, you have to be open with both people. And your partner has to be open as well. But if at any point one side of the party starts to not agree with this situation. Then the open thing will fall completely apart, and could ultimately affect your relationship.
Why bother to be in a relationship? Why not just continue to be single and date other people? Have your cake and eat it too –with icing. The best thing about relationships is the level of trust and intimacy you share that no one can touch.You can love someone and not be in a relationship with them. Some people just cannot commit. If that’s the case, stay out of relationships. Let your partner find someone who can. The only way these relationships work is if there is an equal balance at all times. It happens. Both parties want it and they are secure in each other. But if both parties want it, doesn’t that also mean they are both mutually acknowledging that there is something they aren’t getting from each other which is what they continue to search for?
Hmmm….This is a tough question! Nothing is ever a definitive NO for me. But….I think all parties involved would really need to communicate in regards to their expectations, limitations etc…I actually watched a documentary about 2 men and 1 woman who were in a relationship…Living together…Had kids together… They have been together for many years and it has worked. I do not think it is impossible…But, I think that the individuals involved would need to have a CLEAR agreement as to what their relationship together meant.
It depends on the person I’m involved with. Some people are just not capable of dealing with certain emotions. I have had open relationships before, and one was really great. Only because we had the ability to turn of the emotion switch, unless we were with one another. Not an easy task. I agree with a few people above. It has to be great communication, and none of the jealousy.
I would agree. Jealousy can screw the whole open relationship thing up. If you can keep the emotion out of it, you just might be successful in an open relationship.
I absolutely do NOT agree. Although in theory that sounds nice. Anytime you have relations with someone “other” than the one you are in a relationship with, you open yourself and the relationship up to unforseen damage. What about the other girl? What if she goes crazy? What is she tells YOU it’s cool and then discreetly plants seeds to mess up your home. How would you know…the fact is you wouldn’t. Because when dealing with women there is no telling just what you are dealing with on any given day at any given time. Now, don’t get me wrong…I am all for a couples having FUN and experimenting TOGETHER as a couple. But that outside or as you call it “open” stuff. You just never know…
Jealousy, is a human emotion! Although the offer might sound great, whom really wants to share! Some people are better, at matters then others! I personally, am selfish towards sharing!
Relationships are constantly growing and changing. The main problem with an open relationship is that people usually act like all things will stay the same. Even if all parties enter into the relationship honestly believing in the openness, things change — relationships grow and people’s expectations change. And not all will eveolve at the same pace. It also extremely difficult to do if the other partners are not also involved with multiple people. Because what you end up with is someone with multiple “commited girlfriends.” While some may be attracted to that “harem” vision, it seldom will work for very long for those who are committed and giving exclusively to someone who is dividing their energies, emotions and attentions. I think that very few people can honestly do this and give the respective relationships the attention they deserve. People either end up being pulled in too many directions or someone ends up getting the short end of the stick. I agree that if you want to be with multiple people then it is best not to enter into a relationship.
I think open relationships are good when it’s agreed upon by all involved parties from the beginning of each relationship, with adults only (lil girls not allowed), and you have to set firm ground rules. Open relationships work when you care for someone but aren’t the committed type. In my opinion this is a grown-up preventive measure for cheating. Cause lets be honest who hasn’t been cheated on? Wouldn’t it have been better just to know from the beginning that, that person was unwilling to be with one woman?
Let’s see, …an open relationship denotes a relationship in which participants are free to take other partners. No, I don’t think I would/could/incline to agree to that.
i agree with all of you,however, bottom line up front, - i don’t think anyone can honesty deal with an open relationship. you would be lying to yourself and the other parties. i don’t think anyone existing is stronger than human nature - one of those being emotions. emotions are a killer - you can say you are not a jealous person all you want when the s&%t hits the fan - things will change.
C’mon now. All this openess sounds good, However, I can’t/won’t share my woman, because I’m the queen (’round here’)! Let’s be realistic: open relationships are permissible only when YOU are on the selfish/weak ass/receiving end of it, meaning that YOU get to fuck whomever YOU want (doms). On the real: half, if not all of you would have no understanding if your wife came home and said, ‘hey baby I want to fuck somebody else.’
HELL 2 DA FUKKEN NO…I am not one for sharing. First of all that is not my MO, i like to be exclusive with my partner, it has nothing to do with me being secure, it’s a matter of principles. Second there are toooo many sexual diseases going around to just be sleeping with every jane and sally…lmao and lastly i don’t care what ppl say EMOTIONS GET IN THE WAY. Personally i can’t honestly see how someone who really cares about their mate asking them to have a open relationship…
Personally open relationships only work when you still have not found that “special someone”. If the option is raised to you a red flag should go up!! It may be an indication that this person is bored, sexually frustrated or afraid of commitment. In the end whatever decision you make will have it’s consequences.
I would like to think that I could try anything Once maybe Twice to get it out of my system. But if I’m in the relationship mind, body and soul I feel there is no need to have an “OPEN” one. I have chosen this woman for a reason and I would hope that she gives me everything that I would need and want in a partner. If not then I think I need to revisit being single AGAIN…..
Open relationship- can you say Walmart - when you have a cold you look on the shelf to see which medicine cost the least - that’s the one you go with until you get sick again, then go to the next one, because obviously the first one didn’t work and process goes on and on and on. HOLLA.
I don’t have anything against an open relationship; however, me personally would not like to be in an open relationship. I think I am too jealous and afraid of diseases. I have had an open relationship in the past and it didn’t turn out well. Sometimes I am jealous of people who have open relationships because they seem to have so much fun and the couples seem to be more honest with each other, but I don’t think I am the right person for such type of relationship
open relationship hmmmmmmm…. see that’s a thing that both parties should agree on. I read everyones comments and everybody had cool points. I myself wouldn’t be involved in an open relationship just like others said u might as well be single and just have fun and be OPEN about what u are doing and no playing games. See, when u are single and seeing someone just like u are in a relationship, someone answer this “would u think that is an open relationship?” I mean people kill me and say me and this person is not in a relationship but yet u are spending all this time with that person just like one and even then u catch feelings when that person start paying attention to someone else besides u. Now tell me, how open will u be? I rather not be in a relationship and just date u can enjoy yourself and don’t have to answer to anyone. Thats me right now SINGLE with no headaches:)
My answer is sooooooooo noooooooooooo, it’s an oxymoron to me. What is the purpose having an open relationship; just continue to have a friendship with fringe benefits. I believe most people “try” this to continue to “look” or to “buy time” until “both parties are ready”. In most instance’s one of them are not being honest about their needs or wants. There probably are some people who don’t want the entire complexes of a relationship but I’m not one of them.
No. You can’t have what I have nor will you have what she has.
Yes i could consent to an open relationship depending on the individual and also just as long there is a mutual agreement and understanding.I also feel as though open relationships are not for everyone because alot of people have different issues such as jealousy etc.
I have somewhat of a hypocritical stance on this topic. While I think that a commitment between two people should render their relationship monogamous, I would be ok with being the “third wheel” in their relationship – lol. What I am saying is that if I were involved with someone I don’t think that I could entertain sharing my mate in any kind of intimate experience with someone else, however, if I was single and wanted by a couple then I just may be able to do it. I know, I know…it’s hypocritical, but hey – it’s how I feel.
I do not believe in open relationships. I know how is feels to have an oen relationship i should say. I would never do it again. I thought is was something we both wanted, but it was becoming overwhelming when sharing became personal time…feel me. So yes communitcation is a big factor, but in the same token there has to be trust and maturity.
Depends on how your relationship is flowing.. not everyone is cut out for others coming into their bedroom and then again — it could be more then that.. but also that person could come into your heart. You got to be ready and prepared for a lot of possible negative outcomes.
If you do choose to do it make sure the rules are set upfront and make it all about the sex .. and know when to cut them off. It’s not easy or nurturing.. but still there are people who can do it. I’m just not one of them.. J
oh hell naw!
but different strokes for different folks.
i don’t knock what works for others.
In my opinion…
I don’t think you can truely deeply deeply love someone and be able tp except an open relationship. if there is no deep true love for that person…then yes it is possible to be open.
No, I am a one on one kind of person. I place to much of myself in our relationship to share my partner. There are to many emotions involved with the building/maintaining a partnership. For me, to add a 3rd/4th element would spell demise. But if it works for someone else, more power to them and theirs.
I JUST SAY DON’T KID YOURSELF WHEN THEIR IS ALWAYS A POSSIBILITY OF DISASTER IT REALLY ISN’T WORTH IT TO CONSIDER. ONCE YOU HAVE GIVEN PERMISSION TO SHARE YOUR BED WITH A 3RD OR MORE IT OPENS ALL DOORS THAT PEOPLE WANT TO CALL THAT THE GATE KEEPER OF SAVING OUR RELATIONSHIP BY CONSENTING TO KEEP THE SPARK GOING. IF YOU HAVE TO GO THAT DAMD FAR THEN ANY TWO PEOPLE ARE NOT SUPPOSE TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP. PLUS IT’S JUST NOT SAFE…
The answer would have to be a resounding NO! I could not share my LOVE, my JOY, my QUEEN, with anyone. Because I’m selfish!! And realistic. Why invite drama????
If I was in a serious relationship with a young lady I would not consent to an open relationship because its just not right. If I’m saying I’m with you and you’re saying you’re with me then that’s what it should be. Once that is established it is automatically understood that there will no one else. If she starts off by saying that she isn’t interested in being in a relationship with one person then I will not even pursue a relationship with her. I feel like there is no such thing as a open relationship that is called still playing the field because how can you tell somebody that you are sexually involved with that it is okay for you to see other people. That is a complicated situation and why deal with it if you don’t have to.
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