Is there any truth….
Is there any truth to the well known joke about Lesbians bringing a U-Haul Truck with them on the second date?
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I HAVE NEVER HEARD THIS JOKE. CAN SOMEONE ENLIGHTEN ME?
Eazy:
The myth is that we as lesbians tend 2 move quick fast when it comes to dating or new relationships. Sad thing is …that it is true. We need 2 learn 2 slow things down a bit when we meet someone new and not try to move in so quickly. Enjoy life 4 what it is.
~Crissy
Wow,,,I wonder why
THE JOKE ASKS WHAT DOES A LESBIAN BRING WITH HER ON THE 2ND DATE? ANSWER: A U-HAUL! EVEN THOUGH IT MIGHT NOT BE THE 2ND DATE, WE DEFINITELY HAVE A KNACK 4 MOVING QUICK FAST AND IN A HURRY WHEN WE MEET SOMEONE. I KNOW NUMEROUS WOMEN WHO HAVE A REVOLVING DOOR WHEN IT COMES 2 THEIR RELATIONSHIPS. THEY ARE EITHER MOVING IN WITH SOMEONE OR MOVING SOMEONE IN WITH THEM. THIS IS UNHEALTHY BEHAVIOR. IF U HAVE BEEN WITH SOMEONE 4 A WHILE AND U BOTH DETERMINE THAT U WOULD LIKE 2 LIVE 2GETHER SO BE IT BUT IF U DO THAT WITH EVERY PERSON U MEET IN A RELATIVELY SHORT PERIOD OF TIME, U NEED 2 LOOK DEEP WITHIN YOURSELF 2 SEE WHAT U R MISSING & WHY U ARE LOOKING 4 IT IN THESE OTHER PEOPLE. EVERY RELATIONSHIP IS NOT MEANT 2 BE A LIVE-IN, LONGTERM ONE. IT’S IMPORTANT 2 TAKE A BREAK IN-BETWEEN RELATIONSHIPS 2 ASSESS THE LAST RELATIONSHIP B4 COMMITTING 2 THE NEXT PERSON U MEET & MOVING THEM IN 2 FILL THAT EMPTY SPACE. IT’S ALSO IMPORTANT 2 MOVE SLOWER IF U HAVE KIDS. BRINGING IN A NEW “AUNTIE” BACK 2 BACK CAN BE CONFUSING & DETRIMENTAL 2 CHILDREN.
I truly agree with Sha…..it is very important to take your time and get to know people before u start moving people in and even bringing them around your kids. i have a child and i don’t like any and everybody around him. you know its said as women and its not just in the gay community. women tend to jump from on relationship to another and never take the time out for themselves and getting to know themselves. There is alot of people who hate being alone and it really shows. They can’t do anything without that person being under them 24/7. you have to let your partner breathe if not they might thing its cool and aww they really love me at the being but later on it can turn out to be ” you getting on my nerves, questions, controlling etc…” all this to say regarding the questions is people to tend to move to quick and dont’ take the time out to get to know one another.
yes- if u wanna get rid of a woman just tell her you are not ready for a committment. she will assume u a committment “problem” and leave - LOL.
also - i have had women show me wedding dreses, rings, take me weddings, talk enlessly about the ceremony on 1st, 2nd or 3rd dates.
so then we have the previous talk mentioned above
Sometimes you can’t help but to bring the truck along, if the vibes are positive.My truck came some 2 months down the line. Lets just say I have renewed my lease if you know what I mean.
I have been dating this girl for a while. She is shocked that I want to take it slow. She says that she is used to femmes dating her two or three times and sleeping with her and trying to move in. Well, I don’t follow that scheme. I need to know more about a women before laying with them and especially living with them. I have my own baggage but it doesn’t travel into each new relationship. A date can be just a date…I notice that this fast moving trend is mostly needy women trying to validate themselves by being in a relationship. I am ok being alone for awhile. I can be more selective. And the dating is not bad either.
There is a lot of truth to the joke. I have been guilty of this too. Now that I am making an effort to move much slower with relationships, taking the time to date, etc it is amazing how often the subject comes up from the person I am dating.
I agree with Aleada, the moment you say you are not looking of something serious, girls want to run. As a result, I foolishly gave in to another relationship. Needless to say, the first month, the move in conversation came up and keeps coming up over and over again. I even get emails with real-estate pictures
I’m ready to get out of this one! So I guess I have committment problems huh?
I would most defiantly say that is “true” - Some lesbians that really should know better should get up out of that “ Uhaul Mentality”. I just think us as Lesbian women love very hard, we love fast, and often times it’s a lot of wonderful love a little too soon.
I am just now learning what it means to have my “own space”, “my own time to myself”… and not feel “lonely” in the process. I still enjoy the company of a woman just not while I am on “bended knee” or something crazy. It’s very refreshing to actually have a date, and at the end of the night I can go home and she can do the same. I can call her in the morning and we can make arrangements to meet again later on in the week. It actually adds a little spice to your personal life and “freedom”. You have to work up to committed relationships. Commitments and sharing of space, should not cum over night .. just b/c you do.
— I mean .. sex is easy but real is never fast.. it maybe “easy” in the sense that you may have a “love at first sight” encounter with a special person but you don’t have to move in together at “hello”. Peace
YES AND THEY BRING THERE EMOTIONAL BAGGAGE TOO, SOMETIMES THOSE ARE HEAVIER THAN HER LUGGAGE! DON’T LET THEM SPEND THE NIGHT MORE THAN TWO DAYS IN A ROW. DON’T MAKE IT CONVENIENT BY PURCHASING AN EXTRA TOOTH BRUSH, EITHER. DON’T LET THEM ANSWER YOUR PHONE AND MY GOD DON’T LEAVE THEM IN YOUR HOUSE WHEN YOU ARE NOT THERE, THEY WILL SNOOPE, I KNOW I WOULD (I WAS JUST BEING A WOMEN WHEN I DID IT)
Some lesbian don’t have the cash to do both… the romance thing and pay double bills… depending on how they get down… so they figure… “Combine some things and have the best of both”… Sometimes saving cash.. and have convenient azz sounds like a win/win…
I’ve lived with a woman for 7 years in the early 90’s,, and it was a lesson learned… My space is to valuable for convenience…
But it’s a true… I was one…
There is a whole lot of truth with that statement. It has happened to me on numerous times. I meet a girl, next thing she’s like, “I want a promise ring”, and next thing she’s on my doorsteps with everything she owns. Some femmes don’t understand the significance of SPACE. Yeah, it’s cool to be bunned up but everyday of the week gets to be too much. Some of them just want you to be there for emotional support but they need to fix that before they move onto to other people especially if they tryna move in. They also think they gonna get off easy, as a Dom they expect me to pay all the bills, take them out everynight and still have leftover cash for that Tiffany bracelet. Damn, women move fast in general and they sometimes push unwanted relationships on other people cuz most of the time I am shocked and I like her and don’t wanna hurt her feelings so I just go along with “her” plans. By the time, we really get to know each other, living with each other has driven us crazy and apart. SLOW DOWN MY LESBIAN WOMEN!!
I have to say that I have neva heard that joke b4 but it does ring a bell(oh lawdddddy, confession). Come to think about it the two ladies I have been involved wit both lived with me. Just as they came, they left with what they can carry. One for 5 yrs(3yrs live-in) and the other for 4 months. The last one I believed we moved to fast, but tried to slow it down. While doing that I realized what kind of person she was all 2gether. As SHA said i have kids and I am single, but I dont want anyone to live with me. There is not a revolving door here. I respect myself and my children, for they come first in any relationship. I love my single life. It can get lonely at times, but loving me is all good and there are no regrets to that!!
Peace
When I had met the Love of my Life I think in some parts that we wanted to move in together but we just cared about was us getting to know one another and for me it was definitely necessary because she had children and in the very beginning we both agreed that I would need to establish a positive relationship with the kids before they would see me stay over but I think if the situation were different the assertiveness of us both would have gotten the best of us. LMOL!! I know now that with my next relationship their has to be an honest common ground of mutual communication to focus on enjoying the phase of dating because I know the gratification of having to work towards a mutual understanding is far better in the end.