Do you think it…
“Do you think it takes away from the appeal of a stud/dom if they’ve had children?” (literally given birth)
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If you see some of the looks that I get. I say it quick yea I pushed them out!! I was with their father and he wanted me to dress like him matching outfits and shoes {he’s not gay LOL}. So the way I dress now is just clothes. My personality is not fake. I never liked makeup or dresses as a child. Im attracted to feminine woman, hair and makeup, just not on me. I’m sensitive because I’m a mom and thats just who Iam take it or leave it.
I think what people forget when thinking about the whole fem/dom thing is that BOTH are WOMEN. I love women for the fact that they’re women –and NOT men. We wouldn’t consider a fem any less of a fem because she can’t have children, so why should we think any less of a stud because she can - and has chosen to! The ability to create life beyond our own is a gift from God and any woman who can and chooses to do so is 100% woman in my book.
I am a stud and plan to have a baby.I do not think it will take any appeal or attraction away from what I bring to the table as a dom because the way I carry myself and my spirit will not change after the baby is born. My girlfriend encourges me to have a baby (we are presently planning our first child with her giving birth). Being able to give birth is a blessing no matter if you are a lesbian or a straight woman,dom or femme. I’m gay and I have more male mannerisims then a femme but i am still able to conceive a child. If your heart and soul craves a child and you are able then you are blessed…I say do it if thats what you truely want.
Hecks NO!!!! BC First and foremost we are all WOMEN!
Women with children are sexy… I don’t care if they are femm or dom… it’s sexy… Stop the maddness about dom/studs not being who they claim over the choices that express their inner love… whether letting her woman explore her or bringing someone to love into this crazy crazy world… at the end of the day……… it’s a dom/stud showing love… It aint easy being sexy…
I don’t think it takes away from a stud to have a child. Too many studs these days have forgotten they are a women first, but each month they should be remined. The whole point of being gay is the fact that you are attracted to a women and if your partner feels you are less than a stud because you have a child they may still want to be with a man, you may want to check that.
I think the few misguided lesbians who believe that motherhood takes away from being a dom are ignorant. They focus more on the natural process in which a child is made instead of the qualities of a mother. Labor and delivery take an overwhelming amount of strength and determination. The very qualities most women are looking for in their “studsband”. These factors accompanied with the fact that you do not know that ladie’s past can not possibly account for a less appealing dom, unless you are ignorant.It’s just that simple.
I think people with closed minds or folks that focus on “labels” would have a problem with a “domme” or “stud” having kids. However, we are all women we are blessed to be able to birth life into this world. No matter how we dress.. or carry ourselves. If you want to have kids it should not matter if you are an “agressive” woman or a “femme” woman it’s your choice.
i agree with Xtina. But in addition I think too much emphasizism is placed on what a dom or fem is suppose to do or how thye are suppose to act. Don’t we have enough barriers to worry about without adding additonal unneccessary walls to ourselves?
I find women whom have given birth to be very attractive. I dont look at them any different than I would a woman who is without children. I feel that SEXY is a state of mind and not about how you look. Of course I want a woman who is pleasing to the eyes physically, but would I choose her over a woman that is sexy both inside and out? HELL NO!! I would leave her right where she stands. Not to mention, a woman who knows the pain of child birth is a woman of STRENGTH in my eyes. I dont have any kids yet, but I would hate to think that once I choose to have one, that I wont be sexy anymore. In the great words of Mike Tyson “That is just LUDICROUS” and truly sad if you are a woman who looks down on another woman who has children as not being sexy. One of the most important things that make up a women is our ability to GIVE BIRTH TO LIFE. How can that ever be unattractive? Please tell me how.
I used to think it was un dom like to date or be with a girl who had a baby vaginally but I’m older now and more mature. I love women and that’s all there is.
Amazing souls are speaking out from their graves. These souls were destined blessed and filled with a divine purpose.
The mothers of these souls felt ashamed to give birth. Because she thought it would ruin her rep. This topic will save so many unborn lives.
I think having a baby and your a dom woman is cool. I just wish I had enough guts to have had mind when I was younger.
No. Child birth is a natural occurrence and it should not be seen as unnatural no matter what role a woman takes in any relationship whether it be heterosexual or homosexual.
I think that a dom willing to have a baby is sexy. I am a fem who is not interested in giving birth, but would like to raise a child with my partner. If she is willing to carry our child that is beautiful!
… to play devil’s advocate for a minute ladies:
What’s up with the doms who have children from relationships with men which occured within a short period of time? (example: A dom with a 2 year old child who just got out of a relationship with a man within that 2 year period.) Ladies, is this different??? Do you find doms like this less attractive? Do you think they Are less of a stud/dom?
Personally, I don’t. They are still women. I still love women, regardless.
MELODYSONGBIRD I AGREE BECAUSE THE TOPIC NEEDS TO BE WOMEN WHO CLAIM TO BE GAY AND HAVE A YOUNG CHILD/CHILDREN. HONESTLY, HOW LONG HAVE U BEEN GAY?? THAT APPLIES TO FEM AND DOMS. I MEET PLENTY OF WOMEN WHO HAVE YOUNG KIDS AND SCREAMS GAY, GAY, BUT IN THE SAME SENTENCE THAT SAME WOMEN WILL TALK SEXUALLY ABOUT A MAN. THE FIRST THING PEOPLE NEED TO DO IS FIND THEMSELVES. IM DOM AND I DON’T HAVE ANY KIDS. I WOULD RAISE A CHILD/CHILDREN WITH MY PARTNER BUT I DON’T DESIRE TO ENDURE CHILD BIRTH.
you know everyone had good points. hamiltonharris i really feel what u are saing as well as others. easy, i agree with u as well and nothing wrong with u not choosing not to have kids but help raising. there are so many kids out here without fathers anyway and as long they have and can feel that someone really loves them and be there for them that most important. to me its nothing wrong again like others stated people tend to forget that u are a woman first and all this titling stuff need to be left alone. everybody get caught up in that cause i’m sure and i know there are doms/studs want to have kids but i’m sure its in their minds on what people would think. first off its your life and u need to live it we only have one. without us there wouldn’t be lovely babies out here. i was blessed to have a son even though i’m fem, he’s 12yrs old now but they all bring so much joy and love yur way even when sometimes u dont’ feel loved by no one else u will know your kids do.
Very interesting-when I first came out as a dom/stud- it was extremely difficult for me to tell a female that I had a three year old child vaginally and that I was married to a man. I also have a nine year old daughter but hey that was nine years ago-no need to lie about that.
I simply just lied and told females who I came across that everything was arranged from the marriage to my child. My ex-husband wasn’t born in this country so I told them that I got married for his citizenship and we arranged my child because I wanted another child; and only wanted a child with him because I knew that he would be an excellent father and vice-versa.
I only falsified info because I didn’t want anyone to look at me as being bi-sexual or unsure of myself. Needless to say my family had to keep up with this lie and I would warn old friends prior to meeting a partner of mine to chill on the reminiscing. I’ve learned to be honest with people and if they can’t accept my past then they can keep it moving.
All in all to get with those females, I didn’t have to lie about anything because either way they accepted me for me. Trust me; they all know that I’m hardly interested in a man, getting strapped and so on. It was just very uncomfortable for me at first. Not because I’m in this situation but I don’t down studs/stone and the rest for conceiving a child. Like most said- we are all women before anything. That’s the fortunate component about it. For those of us whose image portrays as a man but yet conceive kids. In my eyes we are dynamite and can’t any man take that from us.
So that’s just my piece.
(^HONESTy^ is the best policy. . . that’s real)
The chances of finding a woman that doesn’t have children is slim these days. So doms who have children get all the love in the world! It’s a match made in heaven.
Ironically, APPEAL means, a request for aid, mercy; or the power to attract, stimulate, or amuse the mind or emotions. - So if anything, a dom with children is probably more attractive!
In my opinion, if the kid is less than 5 years old, and that female wasn’t previously in the life, then that female can’t be a dom. She’s fresh off the d*ick, and ain’t put no time in. Also, I believe that females who sleep with boys because they “just want to have children,” or for any other reasons are not lesbians, they are merely in the life.
NO! A woman’s most natural instinct is motherhood….has nothing to do with sexuality!!!!!
Sexuality should not be a defining characterisitc of who you are….women are women whether they like other women, a man or both……
No. I don’t because no matter what that is a woman and in early stages in life you may have experimented with a man which resulted in getting pregnant. When become full circle with who you are that my not happen until later on in life but that child is always going to be there. So no matter what a woman is a woman and that is bottom line.