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Have you ever been in a physically abusive relationship? If so were u the abuser or the abused? How did u handle the situation?
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Yes.. I was in an abusive relationship before… and I have to admit that I was both.
It took me a long time you admit that to myself, let alone say it out loud… But strangely, the hardest part was saying it to my partner that followed that relationship.
The abusive relationship I was in, were both physical and emotional abusive. My relationship was what I call a dangerous mix…
You have two people of opposite characters. On one hand, you have someone who is outgoing, incredibly expressive with every little thing that crosses their mind. Talk about their love of you with everyone who crosses their path sort of speak. She shops for you, wants to cuddle every single night. Needs to know everything, like who’s on the phone, where you’re going, and why.
And the other is no better. One who is very low key, who needs space, that doesn’t express love verbally, and doesn’t want to cuddle every night. She feels taking care of your pecuniary and physical needs should say “she likes you” because love is silly. After all, like is better than love right?.? NOT!
Any attention is better than none “one believed~~~~~> And no attention is better than the attention you can end up with “thought the other.
One evening “while standing in the middle of a popular dance club ”The Warehouse” located in NYC in the mid 80”s.
With all their friends around, The out going one decides to poke the other in the middle of her forehead at the bar, and the other… Yes! Knock her a$$ out…
And soon after ~~~~>she realized she found a new way to deal their dangerous combinations.
All was forgiven, and the make up sex turned out to be the best ever… So it happened every time one felt neglected and wanted attention and the other wanted her out her space (so she gave her some attention) ~~~> again, again and again… (I can keep going on with the “again”) but you get the point.
We were together for 5 years.
One day, I got up and moved away. We spoke one year later.
I never had the desire, reason or felt like I had a permit to hit anyone again. “regardless of the relationship”.
It’s been 17 years… and I swear it’s like I don’t know that person anymore.
HELL TO THE NO!!!
wow, now that was deep and at least your reconize the problem with others they just ingore it or don’t think its a problem. some people i know they are good people but when they intake drugs and alcohol it makes them evil. as for me when i was dating men and that was a very long time ago, i had one who was upset because i didn’t want to be with him anymore because he doing everything under the book and i was suppose to deal with it. so i decided there was no attraction and didn’t want to be bothered with that problem so he decided to stalk me and then when i trying to leave he wanted to hit but oh dont’ think i didn’t fight his a$%$$ back. to make a long story short he was just mad that he still wanted to be with me and i didn’t but let me tell me that because he had gloves on he wasn’t trying to hurt me. WHATEVA! you should never put your hands on noone and abuse them period!
I was the abused. I said to myself oneday..I can’t beat him unless I kill him. I chose to pack my child and leave…after 6 years. It took alot for me to get my confidence back and those that know me or have come to know me, notice alot more/maybe too much confidence but I’m learning to balance it out..you know get back to how I used to be. I will never be the same But I’m good
Yes, and Jade was someone that I should’ve left alone the second I saw her true colors but its my nature to try and save, and I thought I could….but it got worse, she was jealous, insecure and loved to choke me. She was a cheating snake and I finally got angry and left her ass.
I would not date a woman who is married. I think that is settin yourself up for some drama. You know that this woman is married and your pretending like you are the only one. No matter if she is falling in love with me or not I wouldn’t further pursue a woman if I know she is married. If she respected how I would feel the situation, she wouldn’t try to pursue me either.
Yes, I am in a physically abusive relationship. It has stopped for a while, but has the tendencies to return. I was the abused and lost all the security I had within myself. I handled the situation by requesting we see a counselor in order for the relationship to continue. We did this for twelve weeks and things got worse. In the midst of the storm, we would continue to communicate and the relationship became tolerable.
I’m still in the relationship and things are tolerable. I’ve never experienced anything like this with a man and wouldn’t tolerate it if it ever occurred. The question I ask myself all the time is why did I allow it to happen with a woman? How do you leave the first woman you’ve ever been with and in love with? I lost the person I was before and became this other person that I don’t like within. I look at my wife with different eyes and she cannot understand why. She feels as though I should put it all behind me and move forward as she did if I really want the relationship to grow.
I want peace and happiness with my wife, but I want peace and happiness for myself too.
Nameless, thats a question that no one can answer for u but i dont’ care if you are dating a women or man they should never abuse a person and take what u use to have. i think from what u are saying things will never be the same and i really dont know how u will be able to get through it if u are feeling like this. once things have happened its hard to look pass it and act like nothing has happened but that’s not the case. i wish u luck and its not easy to leave someone u are inlove with but sometimes when we get ourselves in situations like this we need to think with i heads and not our hearts. this is the reason how we loose alot of our women because we choose to ignore the problem. nameless if u decide to continue then i hope u find peace within yourself because u are important and u need to put yourself FIRST no matter what. good luch boo
i had an ex - and with us it was always F*&^,FIGHT OR GET OUT…LOL