If the woman u were seriously dating….
If the woman u were seriously dating admitted to you that she had STD or was HIV positive, would u still be sexually active with her? would you stop dating her?
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I would stop dating them.
That was a easy one.. lol
For real…STOP DATING HER!!
Been here and done this! I don’t even speak to her anymore. I think I broke the sound barrier getting to the doctors office!
I did not know. I went straight to the doctor. Yes, I am not talking to her,but told her current girl friend. I believe she should tell all her friends. I am fine, she thinks it was no big deal.
Actually, My girl has an STD… and I am glad that she told me… She told me early in our relationship, after we were serious, but before we were intimate. Life sometimes throws lemons at you and you have to accept them… But do you eat the lemon or make lemonade? I was not going to leave her because she was unfortunate enough to be with a jerk once who didn’t tell her or protect her.
Do you know that chances are that if you are sexually active, you have slept with someone with an STD. They probably didn’t tell you, and never would, not to mention you probably wouldn’t ask. Man she was probably fine as hell to and you were happy to tap that ass…
Love is what it is. I will love my partner and be by her side as long as she is there for me… Until then we will be safe and open with each other.
That’s decent Tom Cat… I want to piggy back off of what you just shared. So many people know so little about STD & HIV and Herpes… they don’t even know that STD (s) doesn’t always show up over night… Sad, but often in our community… by time you find out you have been effected… the person whom you contracted it from is long gone, and you’re blaming the last or current woman you were with, when you probably effected them.
I went on a few dates with a woman over the course of a few months, before she told me she had vaginal Herpes (which one I don’t know) I was not fortuned enough to have had a chance to decide one way or the other… But I will say… “To tell someone that you have been affected”.. I believe is a hard thing to do … So to share it with me, I first realized that this person really was digging me/ or thought I was special…(That means I have to take care of her feelings) So to dump her.. Naaaa… I knew we weren’t going to be interment before I did my research. and from the research I wanted to share with her what she could expect from me… What ever that may be,(I didn’t get the chance… ) because fear can bring on a lot of unnecessary stress out side of what appears to be the problem…
I can truly say, I hope I never become one of the women who we are dialoguing about, because it must be a lonely place…
So if you’re reading this… I did do the research, and I understand the precautions… and a lot of other things about Herpes and other STD(s)… I never looked at you different, I was just scared… I never told anyone what you shared with, and I never will… I think you are a beautiful woman and you deserve the best. I’m sorry I wasn’t the best…
The question is so equal to someone telling you “before” you’re at the door of intimacy. But then again, if you aren’t at the point of the possibility of being intimate, why share something personal about your health status. There is a zone or space within a relationship where various truths come forth, whether its an unfortunate sexual encounter leaving you with the task of letting anyone you may desire to be intimate, or if its just that they desire you, and you wanna give em what they want, what ever.
The levels of elevation of learning someone includes “the good”, the bad” and sometimes the very ugly as we see it. Learning that a partner has a family history of mental illness can be just as important as knowing about an STD…both could cause you a decrease in the quality of your life.
So, speak the truth and let the chips fall where they may. All things some how work out for the good.
Honestly, before any intimacy a conversation would have had to occur. And if the young lady had issues. I would respectfully decline to pursue a physical relationship. And just be their friend…
I was told after being intimate for a couple of months. I wasn’t upset or mad, I just felt it was something that should’ve been shared beforehand. She never told any of her previous partners. I thought that was wrong, however I could only be concerned about myself since the decision to be intimate or not was made for me. She was devastated that she didn’t tell me before and apologized profusely. We went to the doctor so I could get a better understanding. She takes excellent care of herself and we’re still together….3yrs.
Nameless…
Did she infect you?
and if so, how is your health today(?)
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