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1. Kristen
   August 17th, 2008 | 3:37 pm

   My partner and I met 10 years ago through a mutual love of ours - basketball. We became friends at that point. Over the years, we stayed in touched, hung out a few times, dating people but more or less we still remained friends. When I graduated from undergrad in 2005, I moved back home. I saw her out one evening and we said we were going to hang out. A few months later, we began to look at each other a little differently (more than friends) and we have been going strong 3 years later because of it.

   When people are friends, they set a foundation so regardless of the outcome, they will ALWAYS remain friends. My partner is my (best) friend as well as my lover.

   Peace & Blessings

2. Shaunice
   August 27th, 2008 | 5:10 pm

   It’s true…how you see your friends are a reflection of you. My partner and I were friends before we became intimate. She actually requested after I broke up with my current GF that she wouldn’t even consider dating me until we became closer as friends and understood each other on some many other levels. We are about to celebrate 4yrs together on 3rd of September and I am sooooooooooooo excited.

3. Michelle
   August 28th, 2008 | 5:44 pm

   After getting it wrong on many levels and times. I finally decided to do it right this time. I met my current partner like Kristen did - playing basketball. I wanted to do something different besides go to the club or stay home and become a couch potato. While she was not my type initially to the naked eye - there was something about her that intrigued me. I found out soon enough - her intelligence and conversation were very stimulating and out of this world.

   We got to know each other and I can honestly say - she’s my best friend and my lover. She strengthens me in ways I never thought possible and vice versa. Our connection to each other just fell so naturally into place. Now coming from BS relationships in my past - everyday I’m so amazed at how easy this relationship is.

   By becoming friends first we learned how to communicate without the fear of being judged. I was not afraid to be vulnerable with her and she has seen me on my good days and my bad.

   I had one rule before we took it any further - even before hugging. I told her that first - we must become friends - because basically I was tired of f*cking for kicks - lol… I wanted this time around to be done right and the commitment to last a lifetime.

4. Diva
   September 5th, 2008 | 8:33 am

   Sometimes, you just need to remain friends. I’m dating a friend I’ve had for years. We met when we both were in relationships, as old relationships ended and new ones began we stayed close. Then, we found each other simultaneously single and decided to give it a try, worst thing I’ve ever done

   If we could get it together we would be a force to be reckoned with…but sometimes things just don’t work out I guess. The worst part of all of this is that our friendship isn’t the same anymore and it never will be.

5. Dr. L.A.
   September 24th, 2008 | 12:52 pm

   I thought this was a great title and wanted to share how I’m in love with a girl that I met when she was in a relationship. We became true friends for the first year and then it envolved into something, I really cant explain, but it didnt manifest until 3 years later. I read some of the blogs before I started to write and it really made me think about how I truly. We are friends now, but there is a honestly compotent that left us with our friendship and I feel that we struggle with that balancing act of being open and “too much information”. I pray for clarity and hope we made the best descision because it too late to turn back now. I feel like she understood me the best when we were friends, but I wish I could tell her how I honestly feel without us having this big “lesbian melt down”, lol. I want to feel like I can bring anything to her and I really want to grow old with her. Im a single mother and I want to be clear about were we are headed without her feeling the unwanted pressure of co-parenting. I also feel like there is a spritual compotent that is so unspoken and unclear that I dont know if we can proceed. Im want to be feed on all levels and I dont feel like I shouldnt be. So, I know that I said alot. But I have faith in this love and I willing to try and fight for this. I hope she does do cause she is my best fucking friend too! Stay in love everyone,Dr. L.A.

6. Madame
   October 6th, 2008 | 4:53 pm

   I fell for the lady that I am now seeing. I was single (as was she) when we met. I met her over the course of a weekend where she attended 2 events that I did. Another female who was interested did not like our attraction, so I distanced myself. Since then, my love interest and I have had a tough time establishing a strong friendship because we are so different. We ended up fighting a lot and eventually stopped speaking to one another for a couple weeks. After all this time, I had grown to love her and she felt the same. It has been very difficult trying to get to know one another on a friendly basis. I stopped being intimate in hopes of becoming closer friends. It is gradually getting better and I am determined to work through our problems. If I could do it oer again, I would get to know her for a much longer time prior to entering a relationship. We have gone through a lot in the time that we have been together, but I must admit that I love her.

7. liivluuvlaaf
   November 1st, 2008 | 2:39 pm

   I have notice the worst breakups happens because you and your partner are not friends. It is easier to take someone through it when there is nothing else there other than physical attraction. If you are friends then you will remain friends even if it where to end.

8. ShortAsHell!!
   November 11th, 2008 | 5:21 pm

   Yea…its easy to say be friends first, but there is always that initial attraction that lures you in…Its hard to place someone in a friendship role when your heart desires other things. If you notice, you tend to let your lover get away with things you would never let your friend get away with. Its obvious to point out the “friend” who wants to be the lover. To make a long story short, do the pen-pal thing, meet up, then see what happens.

9. Kim
   November 12th, 2008 | 4:21 pm

   I must say that my partner and I are the best of friends.It is essential to be connected on many levels in order to have a balanced and successful relationship.Sheree and I have just celebrated our 5 year anniversary and I must say that I love her more each day and every year that God allows us to spend together.Peace and Blessings to all my lesbian sistahs!Thanks for your time.

10. Trish
    November 24th, 2008 | 3:47 pm

    Unfortunately, we’re neither friends or lovers - - just housemates.

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